7 REASONS WHY PEOPLE ARE UNGRATEFUL

Gratitude is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation to someone and to return kindness.

‘Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.’ William Arthur Ward

Gratitude is an expressive emotion that has to be visual for all to see, it cannot be bottled in.

Everyone has their own expectations in life, but whether your expectations are met or not, everyone is expected to be grateful to life situations and to other people. Nonetheless it does happen that many do not.

Gratitude helps us see everything as fortune and grace and therefore we will receive much more deeply.

So many people lament for so long of not having this or that and forget to pause and visualize how blessed they are.  Ghunde said and I quote ‘I was sad that I didn’t have any shoes then I saw a man with no feet.’ There are so many reasons why you should be grateful. But the question is why aren’t  you.

Below are 7 reasons why people are ungrateful:

1. QUEST FOR MATERIALISM

When you center your happiness and existence on materialism, it becomes a quest,  it leaves you always unsatisfied and craving for more, it becomes like a drug. This state of affairs makes you ungrateful because it makes you addicted and always looking for more, thereby you not appreciating what you have or what others give you.

 2. LACK OF CONTENTMENT

Some people are helpless Oliver Twists. The more they have, the more they want more.  These people know and acknowledge what they have but are not satisfied, they just want more. Such people will do anything to get what they don’t have rather than appreciate what they do have. This attitude is destructive because it robs you of that quality of gratitude, consequently losing your peace and happiness.  You need to be content with what you have because not everyone has what you have and you can’t have everything, no one can, it’s impossible. . Some people refuse to acknowledge what they have; they are busy chasing shadows not realizing that what they have already could be more precious than what they wish to have. There is a popular saying that goes ‘a bird in hand is worth two in the bush

3. COMPARISON

Comparison also makes you ungrateful; when you are not contented with what you have you lose sight of what you actually have. Most young girls in their 20s now our days want to have range rovers, designer bags and clothes, go on luxury trips and so on. Things they definitely can’t afford. But they yearn for it because they compare themselves with other women out there, who can either afford it because they are older and have worked hard for it or maybe because they are from financially stable homes. These individuals engage into trivial and unhealthy competitions which drive them to use all sense of rationalism and gratitude.

Tom perrotta quotes; ‘ …the gratitude that spreads through your body when a burden gets lifted, and the sense of homecoming that follows, when you suddenly remember what it feels like to be yourself.’

4. SETTING UNREALISTIC GOALS

Setting goals is great because it helps to keep you focus and productive. But then, goals should be achievable. When these goals are unachievable, they become unrealistic, and it gives you unnecessary pressure that causes you to be ungrateful. These unrealistic standards robs you of the reality of life and the simple things that matters.

5. LACK OF ACKNOWLEDMENT

Being grateful should not come from the absence of needs or wants, it should come from a place of acknowledging what you already have. If you project what you have always, it leaves no room to magnify what you do not have, in fact those things become almost non- existent and has no effect on your thoughts and actions. With such a mindset, gratitude will be your first name.

6. UNHEALTHY CHOICES

You know, gratitude is a choice and so many people are choosing daily to be ungrateful. Funny enough, and most people don’t know this, being grateful is the key that opens doors to more blessings or achievements.  Gratitude makes you act like you have it all, especially when You manifest abundance by being grateful for what you have. Therefore, be careful by your choices.

7. DUELING IN THE PAST

If you need a clear vision of where you are going, forget about what have been and appreciate what is.

Dueling in our past misfortunes has a daunting effect to making us ungrateful. Most people are so lost in what happened then that they forget to realize how far they have come. This attitude or mindset always blocks your vision and even your future becomes dusky, since it imprisons you in the present with regrets, blames and pain.

If you woke up, have clothes to wear, food to eat , then life is good, be grateful. Be grateful for small things, big things and everything in between

LEARN TO BE GRATEFUL!